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My middle child daughter surprised me the other day:
"We have hardly ANY rules at our house."
She'd been visiting a friend's house, obviously, where they didn't eat in the living room, cut paint and paste on the dining room table, you know, GOOD parenting.
I thought about it for a minute, and realized just how many rules there ARE in my house:
- Very little is as important as what you children are interested in.
- Mommy will be there whenever she possibly can, which is most of the time.
- Don't hurt each other and don't hurt yourself. When mommy says "dangerous"? That's the law.
- Making something is much more valuable than buying something. Shopping is not a leisure activity.
And last night same middle child asked THAT question: "which of us do you like the most?"
Oh, there's a very big rule about that. Mommies MUST like all their children the same.
"Oh. I saw something...." She thought about it for a second. "But that was just a TV show."
So thinking about this some more and I'm kind of shocked that with a few variations I'm actually using the exact same rules I grew up with. So my question for parents is, are you? Do you do things the opposite of your parents or the same? I don't want anyone to feel they have to dig out and vent the painful aspects of their childhood, goodness knows I've got mine. But I happily invite you to tell us what a good parent you are, and how rules and parenting fit in the path of doing the best you can.